When you’re in a foreign country, a totally alien city or destination, it’s easy to shrink into yourself and you might find it hard to force yourself to get out and explore. Believe me, this happens to the best of us.
If you’re shy, this can seem like an uphill battle, and this is where many people miss out on the fun of travel. You have to get out, and you have to talk to people, otherwise what’s the point?
I’m a former shy guy, so I am very well qualified to discuss this subject. I used to travel and not really leave the surroundings of my hotel. If I ever went all inclusive, I used to make it my base and not really go out and explore. Nowadays? Totally different, and all because I was sick of hearing everyone else tell me about their amazing experiences, when I couldn’t find any for myself. I realised this was because I wasn’t pushing myself to go out and grab them.
I’m not suggesting you have to grab a rucksack, compass, and walking boots, but even just walking down the beachfront and speaking to the many people who will no doubt say hello to you will give you more of an experience. Who knows who you might meet!
If I can offer one piece of advice, it’s to work in baby steps. Don’t go out there on your first day and force yourself to be the big adventurer, it just won’t work and you’ll get down on yourself. Instead, think baby steps; think on day one, you’ll make yourself go for a short walk, then on day two, maybe go for a longer walk, day three? Why not get on a bus to another town? See where I’m going with this?
Adventure doesn’t have to be about trekking Kilimanjaro, although if that’s what you’re aiming towards, good for you! Everyone’s idea of adventure is different, and what person deems to be an extreme experience, could be someone else’s idea of a walk in the park.
I suppose you have to look at it this way, life is what you make it, and if you don’t bother to push yourself to have new experiences, then at the end of it all, what will you have to show for it? That’s the way I look at it. I think this is what made me try and shirk off my shy guy tenancies. It wasn’t easy, don’t get me wrong, and I’m not cured, but finding my inner adventurous spirit is what has pushed me to see more of the world, and as a result I’ve met more people, seen some amazing sights, have memories to cherish forever, and will never regret pushing myself to do it all.
So the next time you’re wondering whether to push your boundaries or stay safe, do it, I promise you won’t regret it.